The Virtue is Compassion and the Saboteur is Punitive.
Compassion teaches us that pain is pain, regardless of the circumstances.
Generally speaking, when we are children, our parents teach us to be kind and polite. We are taught how to speak respectfully, how to treat animals with kindness and how to treat the elderly with compassion. We learn to share with our siblings and friends, and we learn how to share household duties, like doing the dishes and picking up after ourselves.
When we become adults and live away from home, we exercise our adult rights to speak disrespectfully to one another, to forget to be patient with the elderly, and to refuse to share household duties or even to share our money. We have the right to be cynical, impolite and even down right disrespectful. We can choose not to be kind or patient with one another.