The Virtue is Respect and the Saboteur is Defiance.
Respect is earned not demanded.
We have a tendency to be defiant about respect. We demand and insist that respect be shown to one another. How did we get to such a point that the ideals of respectfulness are taught so disrespectfully?
Learning respect is very important and we learn it by watching one another. When a person receives the respect of others in a humble way, we are then humbled by them. We want to be like them and have others also be naturally respectful to us. But when we see someone who demands respect, we see people jumping to serve out of fear, not dignity. Then people learn how to put the fear of respect into others.